Sometimes we get so caught up in the ‘busyness’ of life that we forget who we are, how to have fun and what our true purpose is. A happy life is about achieving balance in all areas: physical health, mental health, spiritual life, relationships and having a sense of purpose. Finding that balance in life is a challenge for us all, but particularly for women, writes Leeza Baric (pictured) in The Good Oil.
Today’s woman feels the pressure to do everything: to be a good mother, earn an income, support their partners, care for their elderly parents, be involved in their children’s school, the community or church and of course, to look great. The superwoman is a fantasy. We need to slow down and take some time out for ourselves, to relax, think about who we are and what we want. Sometimes in our fast-paced lives we feel a loss of identity as others become a priority. We lose ourselves in living!
Re-discovering one’s passions and purpose in life opens the door to happiness. As a young woman, I had no clear direction, nor the confidence to follow my dream of becoming a writer. For me, the joys of motherhood came at a cost. I was sleep deprived and couldn’t fathom doing something fun for myself. My life revolved around everyone else’s needs. Depression crept in. My relationships broke down, I got sick and felt a deep void in my spiritual life.
I struggled with depression for years, feeling the weight of my conditioning and belief systems keeping me in a rut. At the heart of my problems was the belief that I wasn’t good enough. I dropped out of high school four months before my higher school certificate and I didn’t pursue a writing career which I wanted so desperately. I perceived this as a failure and while I was grateful for my family and beautiful children, something more stirred within. I related to Victor Frankl’s quote in Man’s Search For Meaning. He was a survivor of the Holocaust and wrote:
“Perhaps our deepest subconscious drive is the need for meaning and purpose in our lives. To be truly happy you need a clear sense of direction. You need to commit to something bigger and more important than yourself. You need to know that your life stands for something, that somehow you are making a valuable contribution to the world.”
FULL STORY The superwoman is a fantasy (The Good Oil)