The struggle to bless

Dietrich Bonhoeffer once defined a blessing as "a visible, perceptible, effective, proximity of God." He is right, but what does that mean? To bless someone, literally, means to speak well of him or her. More deeply, that means to see someone’s energy, and honour it as a source of joy and delight, rather than as an intrusion or a threat. This can be very hard to do. - Ron Rolheiser